Acceptance

 Last month I asked you all to pray for Noah and I and our upcoming procedures.  I went in on June 14th to have my pacemaker switched out. There was nothing wrong it was just time for a new one. Because of my past surgeries My biggest prayer leading up to this procedure was for no complications and to be able to come home same day. The Lord was so gracious in answering our prayers.  The procedure went smoothly, I was the first case at 8:00 a.m and was discharged at 1:00 p.m. It was a smooth recovery and I’m so happy to have it behind us. 

  Noah was scheduled the same week for his routine heart biopsy. Unfortunately they had to reschedule his procedure for a later date due to a more pressing case they had.  It got rescheduled this last Monday and he spent the whole day at UCLA.  The next day we got an unexpected call from UCLA saying the biopsy came back showing some rejection. This occurs when the immune system reacts to the foreign antigens in the donor organ by mounting an immune response. Basically your body is recognizing there is something that doesn’t belong and attacks it. We knew that at some point Noahs body would eventually begin to reject his donor heart, we were just not expecting this to come so soon. They explained to us that they wanted to admit Noah and give him high doses of steroids for three days in hopes of controlling the rejection. This went smoothly and Noah is home now. They have added some new meds and adjusted some others. He will continue to be monitored and they will do another heart biopsy in three months,  As usual Noah had an amazing attitude and willing heart to do what he needed to do. He often encourages my heart by the way he responds to hard things. He seldom complains and just does what is asked of him. It wasn’t a great week to have to be admitted. Not just because it was a holiday week but because many of his plans got canceled including a big event for the young adults ministry that he helped plan. He often has had to miss out on planned events including one of his own birthday parties because of unexpected hospital stays. This is hard when you don’t feel or look sick but your heart very much is. His level of acceptance of these hard things is an example to me in my own challenges.  I don’t often have this level of response immediately. My first instinct is not always acceptance.  Truthfully I often cry out to God that I don’t want to do the thing he is asking of me even when I know it’s probably for my good or a way that will bring him glory. It’s hard to accept hard things.  

Elizabeth Elliot in her book “Suffering is Never For Nothing” says this about acceptance, she says" It’s never for nothing. Faith is the key to acceptance. Faith is not a feeling but a willed obedience action. Jesus said believe in me, accept, take up your cross and follow me.  Jesus said if you want to be my disciples, there are three conditions. First you must give up your right to yourself. Second you must take up your cross. Third you must follow. My understanding of giving up your right to yourself is saying no to yourself. And taking up the cross is saying yes to God. Lord, whatever it is You want to give me, I’ll take it. Yes Yes Yes." 

I want to keep these truths of Elizabeth Elliott on my heart as we walk the next hard thing.  Whatever it is Lord you ask of us we want to say YES because we trust you. 

Will you continue to pray this for our family. We love you and we thank you for walking with us.

WE DID IT!

 We did it! We survived Maycember. What is Maycember you ask? Maycember is that crazy month after April that is filled with every end of the year school activity known to man. Banquets, recitals, games, projects, finals, graduations, parties, activities, etc.  It’s just as busy and crazy as the month of December.  

This May was especially busy for our family. We had two very special graduations followed by a big party to celebrate our boys.  Not to mention our sweet girl getting her drivers permit and finishing her first year of high school. So many big milestones. Noah graduated Biola University with a degree in accounting. Jonah graduated high school with a goal to pursue a degree in Music for studio production at CBU.

My biggest prayer at the beginning of the school year was to be able to be present and participate in all the school events. I asked God to protect my health and give me the strength I needed to be able to attend these special activities. The Lord heard my cry and answered that prayer. I was able to avoid lots of sickness all around me and didn’t have to miss any of my kids special events. Thank you Jesus!   It was a great year full of many wonderful memories. I’m so proud of my kids and so thankful for the ways I see the Lord working in their lives. 

Being able to attend all these activities does not mean I always had the strength and energy or that I was free from pain and exhaustion. For me it meant sometimes giving up other things in my life and planning recovery days around each event. It meant  convincing doctors to push out a necessary surgery to June. There were still doctors apts. for  the three of us   (Mel, Noah, Hannah) and managing our daily care. However God in his great mercy sustained us and gave us the strength needed to keep persevering. I’m so grateful for all of it. 

As we look to June I would appreciate your prayers. June 10th Noah will have a heart biopsy and on June 14th I will be having pacemaker surgery to replace my battery.  These are big things but nothing our big God isn’t aware of. What to pray for? Pray Noah’s heart does not show increasing signs of rejection and that his pressures look good.  For my surgery please pray that everything will go smooth and I can come home same day.  Most importantly pray that our hearts would continually be focused on him the creator and sustainer.

We are grateful for your continued love, prayers, and support. 

Putting our Hope in things that Last

 Hello sweet friends,

I grieve not being able to write on this blog as often as I wish. It’s not due from a lack of words that’s for sure.  Unfortunately it’s because it takes a toll on my body and causes more pain than I would like to admit. The pain is from my weak fingers, hands, and neck muscles that it takes to type on my computer or phone. Because of my weak vocal muscles the speech to text isn’t an option either.  Don’t worry if you know me well, then you know I will find a way. We have ordered a tray for my chair that we are hoping will help alleviate some of the neck pain and I have had some dear souls offer to be my scribes. I share all of this to give you a peak into my world and the effort it takes to share my words with you. I continue to work on my book with an incredible team who is super patient with me. I’m trusting that God will speak through me his words that he wants to put out into this world. I’m also trusting in his timing for this.

While on a walk recently, I was approached by a man who asked if he could pray for me. It caught me off guard as I was enjoying a lovely stroll with my guy. The man was kind and respectful enough to ask if he could lay hands on me. This isn’t the first time I have been approached like this. When this happens the prayers are usually a desperate plea for healing.  The person is very grieved for me and I find myself trying to comfort them. A hero in the faith Joni Earekson Tada has taught me how to respond in these situations and I’m so grateful for her advice. Joni has spent most of her life in a wheel chair due to a diving accident that has left her paralyzed. She has an incredible understanding of the theology of suffering and makes me want to grow deeper in my understanding of Christ and the power of the Gospel.

She has taught me to always welcome prayer but to be bold enough to ask the person to not just pray for my physical healing but most importantly to pray for my spiritual healing. I appreciate this advice because like Joni I want the person to know that my hope is not in living a life of comfort and ease. My hope is found in Christ and the hope of eternity with him. The hope that this is just a speck of time compared to eternity with no pain and suffering. What I need most is prayer to grow in hating my sin and to foster a deeper love for my savior. God can absolutely heal and when he chooses to he does so to show his glory. however the main goal in his healings are not to make us or others  comfortable. His ultimate plan is to rescue us from sin. I think we forget verses like 2 Corinthians 4 that remind us that our outer bodies are wasting away. Even if I received that physical healing it’s just temporary. my body will eventually fail and I’m going to die. I want to put my hope in something that will last. Don’t you?  Having this disability is hard and I grieve many things but I have also gained so much more than I could have ever imagined. Dependence on Christ, Recognition and repentance of sin, increased grace and compassion, a longing for heaven, a front row seat to generosity, a desperate need for his word, and lots of time to sit and be with Jesus. These are just a few of the things I have gained. 

It’s not wrong to ask for physical healing. God uses those healings. We should however be more concerned with the healing of our spiritual hearts. Praying that God would get rid of the darkness in us and make us more like him. 

Joni has taught me that Gods aim is not to make us healthy but to make us holy- and that it always begins with leaving sin behind and drawing closer to Christ. I have grown to realize this is far better than regaining the use of my lost muscles. 

New Year New Job

 It was exactly a year ago this week that Jason got laid off from his job. I remember that day so clearly. It was a mix of emotions for us. We had some warning that it was coming so it wasn’t a complete shock. In a lot of ways it was a relief to no longer have the potential loss looming over our heads. Excitement filled our hearts as we pondered what God had for us next. We had big dreams of what our next chapter could be. There was fear in the unknown but also immense gratitude that God had already begun providing a financial cushion for us. 

We spent the year fervently praying that God would use us in this time of waiting on him. I clung to verses like Philippians 4:19 “My God will supply every need of yours according to his riches in glory in Christ Jesus.” This was a journey of daily prayerful dependence on our sovereign Lord. We desired to be obedient to his calling and wanted desperately to be used in ways that would make an impact on his kingdom. 

This news came just as my physical needs were progressing. Jason stepped into the role of my full time care giver.  We didn’t realize how much my needs were being neglected and because of his ability to be home my needs were now being met. This was a sweet gift from the Lord. The mental stress of jasons job and caring for medically fragile family members had taking a toll on Jason. This year long sabbatical provided Jason an opportunity to pour into Gods word and his people, to do the things he enjoys, concentrate on his families needs, and not have the demands of having his mind divided. We were so thankful for this year. Our marriage thrived as well as his spiritual and mental health.

Jason and I began to dream about doing ministry together and how the Lord might use our story to impact others. We were unsure how this would provide financially but we began to pray, seek wisdom from others, pour into books, speak, write, do Podcasts, minister to hurting people, etc.  We didn’t close off the idea of Jason going back to work full time using his gifts and financial degree if thats what the Lord had for him. He met with people and continued to put the word out. We prayed and waited for God to direct our path. We desired for Jason to still be able to work from home and have a job that was low demand and low stress. 

Through a connection from church God eventually answered our prayers and Jason will be working for Banc O Poplar as a financial analyst starting this Monday. He will be working from home full time. We are grateful that he will remain my caregiver but we will need prayer as we learn once again how to balance it all. Thank you for your constant support and unrelenting prayers.

If you are in a place of waiting take heart, Jesus does great work in the waiting. Rest assured he is not absent and will supply every need of yours according to his riches in glory.